Relationship therapy for individuals and couples
The art (and neuroscience) of relationships, sex and intimacy
Practical relationship support for you
Healthy and lasting relationships are hard work. We are not born with a manual on how to relate. Instead, we rely on the models that we grew up with or saw in the movies. These models rarely suit our needs. If you feel sometimes like you are making it up as you go along or fumbling your way in the dark, you are not alone.
I can help you:
- Create emotional security and safety and prevent attachment patterns from affecting your relationships
- Stop rehashing the same arguments and prevent conflicts escalating out of control using effective, evidence-based communication, listening and rapport skills
- Heal and repair the wounds of infidelity, betrayal and broken trust
- Find deeper intimacy by learning how to relate from vulnerable parts of yourself
- Stop past traumas hijacking your life and relationship
- Manage anxiety and emotional overwhelm
- Develop tools for authentic and effective communication
- Decide whether to stay or leave your relationship
- Safely express your intimacy needs or meet your partner’s needs
- Recreate the sparks of romance, excitement, intimacy and sexual chemistry
- Utilise the power of ritual to deepen relationships
- Co-create a shared purpose and meaning in your relationship
- Negotiate the demands of family, children, in-laws, friends and work
- Take your current relationship to the next level!
Relationship struggles are normal and happen for everyone at one time or another. Some times it can be helpful to have someone impartial and outside the relationship to listen and provide feedback and help you identify where things are going off track and give you tools to create a secure and successful relationship.
Hi, I'm Robin
I specialise in no-nonsense, psychologically-grounded relationship psychotherapy.
I work with attachment, sex and intimacy, conflict resolution, effective communication and conscious relating dynamics. My passion is to help you navigate relationship issues and develop deeper connection and intimacy in your life.
Healthy, loving relationships are vital for our survival. Without them we do not reach our full potential in life. Research shows that stress and unhappiness in intimate relationships is the number one contributor to chronic disease and reduced lifespans. We need healthy relationships for wellbeing, growth and happiness.
Humans are relational animals. Nobody thrives alone on an island.
Relating is both a science and an art. I can help you relate, reconnect, rebuild trust and intimacy, and create the amazing relationship you dream of having. I can work with you to help you understand how you are ‘wired for relationships’, to identify your patterns and triggers, to understand your partner and their own relational make up, as well as how to bring back the feelings of romance and juiciness you once enjoyed.
My specialities
Couples therapy
Evidence-based and psychologically grounded therapy for couples.
Individual relationship therapy
Attachment-based relationship therapy for individuals
Couples therapy intensives
Intensive format relationship therapy over a weekend or several days.
Professional supervision
Ongoing professional supervision for practicing counsellors and psychotherapists
What other people say about Right Relationship
“I always valued your empathy, that patience and the fact that you remained totally present with me. I never felt judged or that what I was feeling was wrong. That approach allowed me to give full and open airing to whatever was bothering me and come to my own conclusions. That’s far more powerful and longer lasting than being “fixed”.”
“As a couple we learnt a lot about our attachment styles and that our emotional reactions are based on something beyond the issue at hand. Our relationship is a journey and understanding each other is a key part of that. We now understand how to progress and learn as we go.”
“From the first session, I felt really comfortable and understood by Robin…I went from being quite anxious in relationships to feeling much more secure and allowing space for a healthy relationship.
“Robin’s approach is sensitive and non-judgemental. It also uses breathing and body awareness techniques which helped me to stay grounded and truly connect with what I felt. I started using these in my day-to-day whenever I felt like I needed them and it has made a huge difference.”
“Robin’s foresight, intuition and knowledge created a safe space for me to explore…”
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About Right Relationship
I am a psychotherapist with many years of experience working in the health and personal development fields. After working with thousands of people, I understand how integral deep, authentic relationships and connections are to our lives. We need connection for personal well being, growth and healing.
I’ve also been on the other side of this situation. In my early years I pushed everyone away. I truly believed I could do it all on my own. The result was isolation, loneliness and depression. I realised that I needed others and over many years I learned how to feel safe enough in myself to open up and let others in. In doing so, my life has transformed. Experience and many years of study have shown me that when I prioritise individuality it rarely works, but when I choose relationships and connection the results are always beyond what I can imagine.
Through the power of relationships we create wholeness and happiness in ourselves, experience deep and rewarding levels of intimacy, find community and feel at home in the natural world around us. To get a sense of my approach you might like to explore my How I Work page.
I have specifically trained in attachment-based couples and relationship therapy, including PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy) and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), Family and Systemic Therapy, in addition to various somatic therapies and transpersonal and holistic counselling. I have a particular interest in the neurobiology of relationship (how our nervous systems condition us to relate to other people). I am up to date on the latest research in trauma, neurobiology, and therapeutic practice. My practice is trauma-informed, with an emphasis on creating safety for you.
I also bring many years of experience in counselling, depth psychology, bodywork, breathwork, movement, authentic relating, intimacy, sexuality, arts and creativity, spirituality and more. All these practices, in their own way, shape my work.
Undertaking therapy and self-development are essential to becoming a good therapist. I’ve sat in the client’s chair in my own life, so I understand the therapy process from your perspective, and I relate to you as a human being.
My practice is sex-positive, LGBTIQA+ friendly, and I work with people in consensually non-monogamous and polyamorous relationships.
I offer integrated, relational psychotherapy for individuals and couples. My clinic is in located in Fitzroy North, Melbourne. I also work with people online throughout Australia and internationally. Online sessions are held via Zoom.
