Individual relationship therapy
You don't have to do it alone...
- Do you often get anxious or feel insecure in your relationship?
- Do you struggle with ambivalence or go hot and cold in your intimate relationships?
- Do you feel like you fall into the same relationship dynamics over and over again?
- Do you feel uncomfortable or afraid to discuss your feelings or important issues with your partner?
- Do you experience overwhelming feelings of clinginess or jealousy?
- Do you feel scared or uncertain about entering a new relationship?
- Are you trying to understand and process a recent break-up?
- is it hard to meet your partner’s needs or express your own?
- Do anxiety, depression or lack of enjoyment affect your life and relationships?
- Would you like to explore yourself or your relationship patterns in greater depth?
Individual psychotherapy can help
Healthy relationships are your birthright! We need relationships and connection to thrive and survive. However, navigating the complexities of relationships can be complicated. Nobody teaches us how to be in a relationship, and most of the time, we make it up as we go, learning from our mistakes.
It may seem like we attract the same partners or repeat the same patterns. We may feel disconnected or unavailable in ourselves or experience the same in our partners and loved ones. After a break up we may spend a lot of time and energy puzzling over what happened and how to avoid repeating the same pattern next time. We might enter new relationships with one foot already out, afraid to dive in too deep for fear of going through the same cycle again. We fear losing ourselves or we feel trapped and suffocated like there is no way out or no-one to talk to, particularly when our partner or loved one is abusive or manipulative.
There are often reasons for why this happens. Much of what happens in our relationships is because of our nervous system and our upbringing, that is our wiring and conditioning. Unpacking these patterns is the first step in making lasting, personal change.
Sometimes it helps to have someone to talk to who is independent and will listen. It’s valuable also to learn potent self-regulation and relating tools that you can take away and use in your life and relationships.
I can help you transform and heal, and understand the deeper patterns that play out in your relating. I can support you to create physical and emotional safety, and develop personal resources from which you can build deep, loving trust and connection. Good relating is a skill that requires developing insight, emotional intelligence and attention. When all these qualities are present, the depth of connection is boundless.
Relationship psychotherapy is not just for couples. You might be an individual in a relationship, or you might be single and would like to work on your relating and how you connect.
My specialities
- Attachment repair and boundary ruptures
- Working with issues of safety and trust in relationships
- Healing from break ups, infidelity and betrayal
- Embodied relationship security
- Managing anxiety and overwhelm
- Chronic shame and guilt
- Conscious communication
- Sex and intimacy issues
- Porn use and its effects
- Neurodiversity and relationships
- Polyamory and consensual non-monogamy
What to expect
- An understanding of your own neurobiology and how it affects you and your relationships
- Capacity to regulate your nervous system and manage emotional overwhelm or flooding
- Deepened feelings of safety and security in your personal relationships
- Improved communication skills and emotional intelligence
- A means to process and integrate past traumas, and stop them overpowering your life and affecting your relationships
- The capacity to handle intense emotions such as anxiety, grief, shame, anger or guilt
- Heightened value, meaning and purpose in your life and your relationships
- A greater ability to relate from grounded, vulnerable and authentic parts of yourself
- Understanding of how to navigate the complexities of modern relationships
- An increased sense of self and self-worth
What makes me the right therapist for you?
Unlike many therapists, I do not dish out a diagnoses and cookie-cutter advice on how to fix your life and relationships. Insight and healing are not found by following worksheets. Instead, they are found within, through accessing your internal resources and wisdom.
I tailor my approach to meet you and your needs. Your sessions are all about you. I genuinely listen to you and what you bring to your sessions. We work from the ground up and the inside out, helping you understand how your wiring and conditioning influence your life, and providing resources to help create change.
Together, we work with your neurobiology, your nervous system and attachment style, which influences how you relate to others.
We also work with your individual emotional and communication styles and unpack the stories and patterns that shape your relationships. Relationships and connection are complex and dynamic and I treat them as such. My approach is holistic and works to connect heart, body and mind.
People tell me that they find my approach to be collaborative, curious and non-judgmental.
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